Counting Down the days until beta

Hello everyone I am officially 7dpt5dt (Seven days past a Five day transfer) the wait is killing and the pressure is on for a positive result. I have to admit I tested on Sunday and it was negative and that bummed me out. I got discouraged and decided not to test until Sunday or not at all. My Beta is scheduled for Monday morning at 9:30 am. No pressure right

So throw on some more my IF's who have been relatively quiet sent me a text yesterday asking how I felt and if I would test on Sunday and let them know the results. Hubby didn't want me to test any further and my coordinator says she doesn't bother because the stress was just too much and she is right, it is. But I agreed I figured that with it being so close to beta the chances of it being correct would be better seeing as how we would we almost 13-14 days past transfer right? But, that's the thing with IVF it is a crapshoot to borrow a phrase from another surro friend there are so many variables And no one method works its a tweaking of sorts increase estrace decrease progesterone.

So to keep myself busy I am focusing on back-to-school shopping and I have shirked away from the Surrogate groups for a bit. I have a lot of women supporting me and that helps.

$ more days until Sunday and 5 more until beta....... the saga continues

The Countdown has begun

Well today is the egg retrieval and I am praying that all goes well. I will call the clinic just to find out if it was done to calm my nerves. My nerves are raw we have had one too many pit stops along the way in the ;journey and I am just trying to keep it together. I have increased fruits in my diet my vitamins and added an hour to my exercise routine all in a bid to keep my mind distracted.

I have my yellow nail polish and will be going in for a haircut on Saturday. I go to buy my new yoga pants tomorrow and I have my yellow socks and yellow top with long sleeves the room can get chilly.  The next post from me will hopefully be of me and IF's and hubby  before transfer and me in my gown and I pray that we get a photo of the embryos.

4 days down and counting until T-Day.....

New Photo- Before Transfer and Pregnancy

I wanted to post an updated photo before transfer with my belly showing of course I am a little fluffy around the mid-section with no definition lol but delivering six (6) kids will do that to you.

Transfer Day is Drawing Near

I am updating we are back on track and I am praying every day for smooth sailing after so many disappointments we have a date I have been on Lupron for the past 2 weeks and am scheduled to start estrace pills next Wednesday. I am cautiously optimistic.

I am making plans for T-Day

*****UPDATE*****

When I originally started this post that was where we were in the journey since then The law for Marriage Equality was passed. I sent my IF's a text with the LGBT flag that said Love wins and got a lovely text EQUALITY FOR ALL!!. I started my estrace pills and already went for my baseline monitoring appointment where they measure my Uterine Lining and check to see that I am not ovulating which they do with a transvaginal ultrasound. Of course in true fashion my meds had not been ordered and I had to pick them up myself. I left the office with the assistant Nurse Kari promising to have the rest for my upcoming appointment which is tomorrow, by the way. I am Lupron, estrace, aspirin and prenatal vitamins I already have the sitter secured. LET THE COUNTDOWN BEGIN!!!

I have the Summer Off

Okay so I thank you for following me and my 4th surrogate journey which is turning out to be a pile of just hurry up and wait fest. I have gone over and debated what to writ only because tis is a surrogacy and words can come back to hurt you and be used against you. I want any potential surrogate to realize that the journey is not all smiles and rainbows and hugs. We are all individuals and we all have our bad days and angry days and pissed off days we are human that said . We have to learn each other's temperaments I will lay the truth bare but as always remain respectful of everyone involved.

So I am a planner that's what I do, and the info I got at my last screening was rushed half there nothing concrete and full of take this take that and call when you get your period? What? wait What? But I have another question oh okay and ushered out of the office. WHAT THE HELL  Talk to me this is my body and time I just want to know what we are doing? dang

Okay I fill my script for Provera and Estrace and now I am waiting for a very heavy AF (aunt flow) to hit me hard. I texted IF #1 and his response was a bit stinging I won't repost it but I showed it to DH and he suggested that I leave them alone for a bit give them some space. In essence I was told the information that I am asking and it will be 2-3 months although the Doctor told me 1 1/2 months oookaay

So fellow followers I am off for the summer I will be back when I don't know but tahtnks for reading feel free to contact me if you are anew surrogate and have questions I have lots of expierence

Grow lining grow

So I had a double appointment this week and got some god news and not so good news my lining is thick and fluffy but my triple stripe is taking a little longer to develop hmmph issues issues, issues, like really so I have to pull out the big guns and add some Pomegranate Juice to my regimen and see if it will grow. My lining is measuring 11.4 which is good. My dosage of estradiol is quadruple strength so that may be why they didn't up the dosage they did ask me to bring my estradiol with me and gave me my shot in the office maybe switching it from the evening to the morning will help more. I will be doing the same thing on Monday morning (April 13th).

I also have a new coordinator, her name is Megan I will miss Nicole we have been through so much together but she did promise to come to visit when it is time for me to deliver, funny how we already have that date pencilled in soo next post will be next week and here's to praying for development and a successful transfer

New egg donor

Hello Fairybumpmother followers, I have exciting news my IF's have found HER!!! Their new egg donor and we are on the move. I found out Sunday evening when I had a chat with my IF's via text and got a lovely surprise call from the Fertility Clinic Monday morning I am to start meds again on Friday March 20th 2015t hey will also do a trans vaginal ultrasound and I am sure some blood work will be in there as well. My dosage of Estrogen will be lowered to gradually build my lining and I am guessing for now that we will transfer in May.

I am sooo excited and pleased. The only thing to bum me out is the constant delays with the escrow company damn them for not being in Florida. Due to the ice storm or somebody's ineffectiveness to get things done in a timely matter, its March 11th and I still haven't received my insurance premimum/monthly allowance bummer I am trying to keep calm and not lose it but the agent is not really helping much oh well can't wait for this weather to break

Transfer Day getting ready

Update- Transfer is February 26th

Hello fellow followers it has been awhile and we have had so many development s I want to document and tell as much of it that I remember:



So let's see I have started meds and boy are they beginning to hurt ouchy. So along with that we had to have hiccups with  my health insurance card and the wrong address, delayed reimbursements and such as I remember more I will add more also how about my Transfer dates changing from February 22-23 to now officially to Thursday February 26th 2q015 now for the staff to get the time down pat. Also almost cried when they told me my lining had decreased but then it never got past 8.2-9 so for me the 11 was a stretch by far. But the transfer is still on I am hoping for multiples I know that most in the surrogate world would say I am crazy then I am.  I just want success for my IF's. Below are pictures from my last two visits, forgive the naughty pic I didn't see the end product but I decided to share it anyway

When are we going to start???????

So every time I think we are moving forward we stall. I am growing weary of this match. Let me back track so after all the med screens and blood work I was cleared to start this journey. I receive an email from coordinator that she has forwarded my info to the attorney I requested and that he would be in contact with me as both the IP's and I will be working out the particulars. I even spoke with the agency owner to clarify the terms of the Gestational Agreement.

I speak with said attorney, I am very familiar with IP's attorney as he was mine on my second journey. So a week goes by no word I call "my attorney" he refers me to agency coordinator who tells me IP's lawyer is going out of town to a conference and I would have to wait until he gets back. Okay send in RE's Head Nurse with med instructions etc. and talk of me starting Lupron and me possibly have to switch brand and type of BCP's, now it gets interesting as the birth control pills I am currently on are for my own personal reasons as both DH and I want to prevent an oops pregnancy at this time.  I always go back on BCP's after a pregnancy for that particular reason.

For those who are new to surrogacy Lupron or BCP's are used to suppress the ovaries before PIO (progesterone in oil) is administered in preparation for an embryo transfer. Back to the long winded tale, I play phone tag from "attorney"  and tell him what the clinic is proposing but also he knows we DO NOT HAVE A CONTRACT!!!!. I  will tell any potential surrogate not to start any type of meds without a contract. I put attorney in caps as they have yet to pay his fees to legally represent me sighhhhh. Sorry for swerving off course I just want to clarify a few things as I go along. His advice speak with my coordinator and do not switch anything as that can be seen and viewed as start of meds which I have an reimbursement for.

Well I final speak with my coordinator who finally reveals to me that the attorney we thought the IP's were using they have not legally retained and as of Friday November 21 2014 they have no legal representation. So I was flabbergasted after all the jumping through hoops and delays to still have a delay and its not even my fault I was tad bit miffed. I want to help this cou[le but it seems like something is off she wanted me to follow through and switch saying that the escrow company would reimburse me the cost. I agreed but it still left me unsettled so I gave in and called the agency owner who matched us  I explained the whole situation again to her including the fact that my contact with The Boys has been close to Nil with one line responses to a paragraph long email. That wasn't sitting right with me considering that close contact was what we both asked for and agreed on.

There is just so many unknowns and as we head into the Thanksgiving Day holiday I cant help but to feel a little saddened as I await a call as to whether or not they will be moving forward or are they even ready to take on this journey. There is still a little more that I want to say but I think you my foloowers get the drift. When I post again it may be just to say that I am back on the hunt for new IP's :(

We are Finally Moving Along!!!!!

Hello I am back and I have great news we are finally moving along and I have just completed the last leg of my medical screening. It was a Godsend that I was able to be seen and be on my period at the exact time that they needed me to be. That's the beauty of the world of surrogacy and the medical screening process you can move from being at standstill to a flurry of appointment in matter of days.

 So here's my checklist thus far:

• Psych Evaluation
• Medical records
• IF meeting face to face
• Pap Screening
• Blood Work
• Mock Transfer
• Saline Sonogram

Those are in no particular order they are just all completed and now we are onto contracts and I hope to have a draft in may hands next week. I just wanted to say thank you for reading my blog and spreading the word. I am sorry that I had to delete my post. I had to take a step back from the process a bit as I realized that I was becoming too worked up over no action being taken. I always enter a journey with a calm mind and spirit and this was out of character for me. I explained to my IF's and they totally understood as they were feeling the same way.

So now as we move forward with contracts we are calmer relaxed and we both know and realize what we want and are ready to take the next step in our journey there.

Unsure.....

Hello to all of my followers I know that you may see a few posts missing from my blog it was a hard decisions to take them down but I felt that I had to make it. My journey is up in air and a bit confusing I thought we were all on the same page with starting this year cycling/transfer but I found out that due to miscommunication between my IF's and the initial clinic they will not be able to use them so the search is on for a new clinic. I haven't had my medical screening done to be cleared by the RE as yet thus with agency no contract talks. This is a bit different for me as after the initial meeting contracts and screenings were done simultaneously. So right now I am just waiting which is hard.

I haven't spoken to IF's just got word through a third party that they are upset as it should be as I do believe monies had already been spent. The agency owner is doubtful we will be able to get on in a clinic and she wants us to prepare for 2015 which totally pushes my schedule off. So now I may have a few major decision  to make myself .I hope to have some news soon until then send prayers for us

Just a few shots